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Goodbye to you.

06/22/2020 No Comments

I’m feeling this profoundly hard today, and I am making this public so I don’t have to answer (as many) questions later:

My broken, bruised and harmful relationship with my mother has reached beyond its inevitable breaking point, and I am finally having the courage to cut ties and walk away.

And, in time, hopefully heal…

“You don’t have to be a product of the inept, cruel parenting that was shown to you, and this starts with the brave decision that the cycle stops at you. People who do this, who refuse to continue a toxic legacy, are courageous, heroic and they change the world. We’re here to build amazing humans, not to tear them down. How many lives could have been different if your parent was the one who decided that enough was enough.”

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Hi there! I’m Sarah – a mother of two, a survivor of post-partum anxiety/depression/OCD, a respectful co-parent, and a survivor of childhood trauma. I reside in the Vancouver, BC, area and work as an early learning professional.

One could best describe me as nerdy, introverted, and a bit of a doomsponge. :)

Things that complete me: nature, dark chocolate, thrift shopping, tacos, nerdy PC games with player housing, and reading.

I write on this website to make meaning of my mothering journey, to reflect on where it’s taken me, and to learn how I keep becoming as a mother, woman and person in the mess of it all.

Thanks for stopping by!

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Smaller peices of my writing can be found on my Instagram account. ♡

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⁣We have lived in this area for 6.5+ years. ⠀ ⁣We have lived in this area for 6.5+ years. ⠀
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We have been to our neighborhood park 150+ times. ⠀
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So, what *finally* prompted O to overcome his fear of heights/gross motor difficulties and go up the “big kids” climber? And not just on one of the ways up, but five of the different ways?⠀
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It was most definitely *not* the dozens of times I’ve eagerly tried and encouraged him. ⠀
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Instead, it was the realization that his toddler sister was big enough now to start experimenting on the smaller/“his climber”, and for it to become *immediately* uncool as a result. ⠀
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… and this is why I have absolutely no idea why I try sometimes. :P
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On July 1st, 2012, David and I were married.   To On July 1st, 2012, David and I were married.
 
Today, on what would have soon been our ten year wedding anniversary, we wish to announce to you our separation.
 
This has been a conscious, respectful, and mutual decision. Other than time and growing apart, there isn’t one particular reason or event that brought it about. Life chose to move on while our marriage didn’t, and not for lack of trying.
 
But, please know this – we are at peace.
 
To our friends and family who are finding out about this for the first time through social media, we apologize. For our own well-being, however, this felt the easiest way to deliver such news.
 
You will still see David in my life, and vice versa. Like all things, this separation is a work in progress. We are still learning and understanding what it will mean and look like for the future of our family and our friendship.
 
Going forward, please respect our need for privacy as we navigate these new waters. We appreciate your understanding.
 
Thank you,
 
Sarah and David
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